Isn't that the same about everything in life? We often want what's best for what we care the most about. Yet, we often fail the hardest in those same areas. It is kind of like when you were a kid (or a dramatic 15 year old girl) and you would come home from school completely shattered by your day, friends, boyfriend, etc...and you would lash out insanely towards your mom(who had warm cookies waiting when you walked in the door)....ok well maybe that was just me but it seemed like the one who loved me the most and who I loved the most I treated the worst(in those years).
I don't want to repeat those tendencies in my adult life.
And thankfully with the help of God I can succeed and put my best into those that love me the most instead of living in the "they love me no matter what" phase.
That is so true isn't it?
Your family loves you no matter what-so why is it that we are super polite and loving wearing our best dressed Christian attitude to the ladies at the bank window-but then out husband comes home late from work or our kid spills his entire plate on the floor...satan literally looks polite compared to you?
Man I hate those unglued moments!
I have been reading a book called unglued and it is super helpful!! One thing I have grasped lately is that I need to change my thought pattern in order to change my responses.
The bible says...
Do NOT (emphasis mine) conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is- His good, pleasing, and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)
Renewing our minds with NEW thoughts is crucial.
I learned in this book that...
We forget most of our random thoughts, however we retain the thoughts that are tied to our emotions.
For example...if i thought over and over that I was "unglued" and it was a thought that was tied to a strong emotion, we deepen the memory trace when we repeatedly access that thought.
The same is true if we decide to stuff a thought-we'll perpetuate that stuffing. Or, if we yell, we'll keep yelling. (Yikes!)
We won't develop new responses until we develop new thoughts. That is why renewing our minds is so crucial. And renewing our mind with HIS word!
Scripture also teaches that we can accept or refuses thoughts. Instead of being held hostage by old patterns, we can actually capture our thoughts and allow the power of Christ's truth to change them:
2 Corinthians 10:5
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
I can't control the things that happen to me each day but I can control the way I think about them. A lot of times my personal responses are not chosen by the situation, but by who I am around(ouch my own truth hurts)
Like if I am in public and my children are melting down about leaving the park
(or anywhere...see previous posts lol)....I often will respond rougher because I am embarrassed about who is judging them (me).
It use to be when I saw the park was full(and we were in the teachable "leave like a good happy boy so we can come back next time" phase)...
I would sometimes want to make up a quick lie and turn around and renig on taking them to the park but I did it anyways because I love them and love to bless them.
(And will continue too because the new me is going to continue to die to myself and be more like HIM)